The past year has been an interesting one. Launching a business during a recession might seem like a crazy idea to some. But I did that - opening my business in 2007, getting it cranking in early 2008, and watching the economy tank ever since. But for many matchmakers, such as myself, it's been a different story.
I've seen my business grow during tough economic times, with that crazy phenomenon being noticed by CNN and other news sources. Why? How? Well, I guess, at the end of the day what people really want is to love and be loved. It's pretty hard to snuggle up with your 401-k, particularly as it is shrinking in front of your eyes.
So, here are my Top 10 Tips for 2010, which I base on a year of learning, watching, observing, listening to feedback, and understanding that, no matter what, love conquers all:
10. It's no fun to eat alone. In fact, a meal enjoyed with someone else is more satisfying, and you will benefit from not only the nutritional value, but the company as well. Share dinner with someone at least once a week. More often if possible.
9. Know what you're looking for! There's an old saying: "If you don't know where you're going, any road will take you there." Know exactly what you're looking for in a partner, and be sure your wish list is realistic and achievable.
8. Like attracts like! Take a close look in the mirror. Are you someone you'd like to go out with? Are you someone that's fun to be around? Do you exert positive energy? Whatever you're putting out there is what other's are receiving. No one wants to be around a negative person other than - you guessed it - other negative people. Have you ever noticed that some people have lots of friends, and others have few or none? Why do you think that is? Ask yourself if you're the partner you seek.
7. Have to courage to walk away! Have you ever stayed in a relationship way too long for all the wrong reasons? Do you think you might do that again? Or perhaps you're doing it now?? Well, all I can offer up here is - life is short. Our time on this earth is precious. Remaining in a relationship that is not right for you, or staying because it's easier to stay than to go, is just plain dumb. It's your life.
6. Soulmates do exist. Call them what you want - love of your life, life partner - whatever label you choose. Mr. or Ms. Right is out there. You just have to know where and how to look. And, you must know what you're looking for, which leads us to #5.
5. Where and how? Of all the millions of people in the world, the millions found in the online dating sites, and the impossible number of singles found in bars, clubs, and the like - what's a searching single to do? You're looking for the needle in the haystack. How do you find him/her? Start by asking yourself just that. Remember - like attracts like. So, what are the activities, events, and hobbies you enjoy? Make a list - today. Then, ask yourself, where do people who enjoy these same activities, events, and hobbies go? Research, discover, join, attend. You're on your way.
4. Be open to new things - and people: Too often our wish list gets in the way. Making a decision whether to meet someone based on a photo or an initial phone conversation is probably not doing either one of you justice. Look for inner qualities and the values that are in alignment with yours. Remember, like attracts like - yes, I keep saying it because it's so important.
3. Use your secret weapon: YOU! You're a good catch, right? At least, for the right person. Understand what great things you bring to the table. And the relationship! Exude positive energy, a happy persona, a healthy attitude. Unpack your bags. Get rid of any "stuff" you're carrying around with you that could get in the way of a relationship. Do the work! It will pay off.
2. The Beatles said it over and over - All you need is love. Everyone - at least everyone I've met in my years as a matchmaker - wants the same thing. To love and be loved. You must believe it's out there for you, you must have a plan in place to make it happen, and you must set realistic goals for yourself. If you make only one New Year's Resolution, make it this: "I will create and stick to a relationship plan for myself in 2010. My plan will be realistic, achievable, and I will outline the steps required to make it happen." Ask yourself two questions: "How badly do I want it?", and, "What am I willing to do to make it happen?".
1. Here we are to the top, number one Matchmaker Tip for 2010. It's not rocket science. It's not something you have never heard of. And it's not something I made up. It's reality - and it's based on the thousands of singles I've matched, coached, helped, listened to, laughed with, and yes, cried with. It's also true - true for everyone - including you. Simple really, but so hard for so many. Are you ready? Here it is - "YOU HAVE A CHOICE". You're in charge of you! Choose what's right for you. Choose what's not right for you. Know who you are and what you want. And choose you.
Happy New Year. Live - Laugh - Love.
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