I've had an unusual number of inquiries lately about campus dating, online dating for students, and all the safety issues that go along with that. But an interesting twist has arisen. It seems many students who find campus romance, dating that special someone throughout their college years feel they should follow the next logical progression after graduation - find a job and get married. The problem seems to be, they don't really know who they are or what they want - they stick with what's been familiar all through college and marry him, or her.
A few years later it's kids - and often, sadly, a few years later, it's divorce. Are we marrying the wrong people because that's the next logical step?
Helping university students understand themselves, what they need from a relationship, discovering and uncovering what their non-negotiables and deal breakers are - and then how to tell if their college romance is sustainable - is something I've started doing primarily through coaching and speaking. Creating awareness, providing information, enabling self discovery.
What is your experience with this? What are your thoughts?
